About Stillroom
A quiet place for the hard stuff
Stillroom is a personal mental health blog — honest, grounded, and written from experience, not expertise.
How this started
A few years ago I went through a stretch of time that I can only describe as quietly falling apart. Not dramatically — no crisis, no rock bottom moment. Just a slow accumulation of anxiety, exhaustion, and the particular loneliness of feeling like everyone else had figured something out that I hadn't.
I read everything I could find. Some of it helped. A lot of it felt clinical, or relentlessly positive, or written for someone whose life looked nothing like mine. I wanted something more honest — something that said 'this is hard and it doesn't always get better quickly and that's okay.'
So I started writing. First just for myself, in notebooks and late-night documents. Then, eventually, here.
What Stillroom is for
This blog is for anyone on a mental health journey — whether you're in the thick of it, coming out the other side, or just trying to understand yourself a little better. I write about anxiety, depression, therapy, relationships, and self-care. Not as an expert, but as someone who's been there and keeps going.
Honesty over positivity
I won't tell you everything happens for a reason. I'll tell you what actually helped, and what didn't.
Gentle, not soft
There's a difference between being kind to yourself and avoiding hard truths. I try to hold both.
No expertise required
I'm not a therapist. I'm a person. Everything here comes from lived experience, not credentials.
Why "Stillroom"?
A stillroom was a room in old houses — separate from the kitchen, quieter — where herbs were dried, tinctures were made, remedies were kept. It was a place of slow, careful work. Of tending to things. That felt right for what I wanted this to be: a place to tend to the parts of yourself that need quiet attention.
You're welcome here
Whoever you are, whatever you're carrying — I'm glad you found this place. I hope something here makes you feel a little less alone.
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